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Partner with us to roll out the Sexual Negotiation Programme in

South Africa, Botswana, Zambia, Namibia, Tanzania, Lesotho, Malawi, Eswatini, Zimbabwe and Mozambique

Southern Africa Youth Project has over 16 years of community development from 2015

Southern Africa Youth Project Clifford Legodi 1
Clifford Legodi

General Manager

Southern Africa Youth Project Linah Ralepelle 1
Linah Ralepelle

Programmes Manager

Southern Africa youth Project Mulalo Mavhungu 1
Mulalo Mavhungu

Finance Manager

Our work on Sexual Negotiation?

Southern Africa Youth Project has been implementing the Sexual Negotiation Program since 2015. With the program we have managed to reach 100 000 Adolscent girls and Young Women (AGYW) in townships and rural areas.

Southern Africa Youth Project provides sexual negotiation program to Adolescent Girls and Young Women (AGYW), sex workers, men who have sex with me, Lesbian, Gays, Bisexual and Transgender and Intersexual (LGBTI) in Southern Africa.

Working with over 500 000 young people in South Africa, Botswana, Swaziland, Namibia, Tanzania, Lesotho, Zambia, Zimbabwe, Malawi, Mozambique and Eswatini


The impact we made on Sexual Negotiation?

Southern Africa Youth Project has realised that its clients and beneficiaries were not able to negotiate with their sexual partners.

Through this program, Southern Africa Youth Project has managed to give Adolescent Girls and Young Women (AGYW) a voice and a provide advisory and assistance to enable them to understand that they have a right to negotiate with their partners if they want to protect themselves by using the contraceptives and female or male condoms to save themselves from unplanned pregnancies, getting sexual transmitted infections and also to get HIV/AIDS.

What is Sexual Negotiation?

Sexual Negotiation means that Adolescent Girls and Young Women (AGYW) are able to negotiate with the sexual partner on whether to use protection such as condoms or not.

Many Adolescent Girls and Young Women (AGYW) have sex with their partners when:

  • They are not ready to have sex.
  • They did not bring any kind of protection.
  • It is difficult to negotiate when the sexual partner is more experienced than you.
  • Communicating about using safe sex can be hard and leads to Adolescent Girls and Young Women (AGYW) being affected by HIV/AIDS and STIs
  • Communication is very key before two people can have sex. 
  • Boundaries needs to be set before sex can happen.

Why do we have a need for Sexual Negotiation?

When someone listens to how you want to have sex. You then feel free and relaxed. However when someone forces you. It is another thing.

It is more important to keep in mind that when you want to have sex the other partner must not force you to have unprotected sex or force you to engage with you in the manner that you do not want.

At Southern Africa Youth Project we empower Adolescent Girls and Young Women (AGYW) and Lesbians, Gays, Bisexuals, Transgender and Intersexual (LGBTI) to have better sex negotiation with their partners for their protection and safety.

What statistics exists on Sexual Negotiation?

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The prevalence of HIV in the general population of South Africa is 18%—the fourth-highest prevalence in the world.9—which indicates a hyperepidemic.8 Around 6.1 million South Africans are living with HIV, and 240,000 die yearly from AIDS-related illnesses. As in other countries, large disparities exist by province and demographic characteristics.10 For example, HIV prevalence is around 40% in KwaZulu-Natal, compared with 18% in both the Northern and Western Cape provinces. Women are disproportionally affected, and on average are infected earlier in life than men: Female prevalence peaks at 33% between ages 25 and 29, whereas for men the peak is at 26% between ages 30 and 34.8,11 Further, incidence among 15–24-year-old women is four times that among their male counterparts (2.5% vs. 0.6%).11

black couple holding condom lying on bed under white blanket

What Southern Africa Countries are doing on Sexual Negotiation?

We create a platform for Adolescent Girls and Young Women (AGYW) to be able to discuss about the Safe Sex Negotiation.

We cover the following objectives:

  • Identifyinmg solutions to better communication about safe sex.
  • We enable the youth to distinguish between communication that may be too demanding, manipulative, non-supportive and abusive.
  • To also address the myths and negative assumptions about the use of condoms and the benefits around it.

What is the positive impact of Sexual Negotiation?

We have seen a reduction in teenage pregnancy on beneficiaries participating in our programs. Others have gone beyond higher education to finding employment

  • Southern Africa Youth Project strives to enable young women to recognise they can use when their partner refuses to use the condom.
  • We want to ensure that we address the challenges faced by power usage that exists during the sexual decision process.
  • We want to make sure that we normalise and to practice communication between partners to increase the risk of safe sex

What is the negative impact of Sexual Negotiation?

If Adolescent Girls and Young Women (AGYW) do not negotiate prior to having sex. They will find themselves at a higher risk of contracting social and health problems.

Communicating about and negotiating safer sex practises includes how to reduce risk and increase pleasure at the same time.
All sexual activity requires communication between partners.
Communication is key for practising consent, increasing pleasure for all involved, and establishing how to have safer sex.

.Distinguishing between supportive and coercive communication within sexual relationships can be challenging and takes practise.
Knowing how to set boundaries and communicate assertively is a good place to start.

.Condoms protect against STBBIs and pregnancy. They have uses in a variety of sexual activities, including oral sex, anal intercourse, and vaginal intercourse. Despite the benefits, condom negotiation can be challenging.

Communicating and Sexual Negotiation?

Communicating about and negotiating safer sex practises includes how to reduce risk and increase pleasure at the same time. 

While communication and negotiation can be challenging because of the stigma that surrounds sex and sexuality, learning the necessary skills is essential for safer, more pleasurable sexual lives. 

Distinguishing communication and negotiation that is supportive and mutually affirming from communication and negotiation that is manipulative and coercive is challenging and takes practice. Knowing how to set boundaries and communicate assertively is a place to start  


What needs to be done to prevent Sexual Negotiation?

There has to be three things. The I want to, I will and Will not as in won’t

As a young person you should:

  • Learning to develop the WANT to understand if whether she wants to have sex or not.
  • Learning to develop the WILL  to understand if whether that is what she wants to do. Also if the partner is going to use the condom. She can continue to protect herself.
  • Learning to development WON’T understand if the sexual partner does not want to use the protection. Then she will not have sex.

Our past performance on Sexual Negotiation?

Southern Africa Youth Project has worked with over 100 000 young people in Southern Africa providing the sexual negotiation programme.

While condoms are the best way to prevent most STBBIs and pregnancy at once, there are two other highly effective strategies to help prevent HIV. Both of these strategies involve the use of antiretroviral drugs (HIV drugs). 

When HIV-positive people are on HIV treatment and maintain an undetectable viral load (the viral load is too low for tests to detect it) the chance of passing HIV to their sexual partners is dramatically reduced. When taken as prescribed by HIV-negative people, medicines called pre-exposure prophylaxis (or PrEP) greatly lower the chances of becoming HIV positive through sex.

black couple holding condom lying on bed under white blanket

Our past performance on Sexual Negotiation?

While condoms can significantly decrease STBBI risk, it can be challenging to negotiate their use. This is partly due to the myth that safer sex supplies like condoms and dental dams reduce pleasure and that once you are in a long-term relationship, you do not have to worry about STBBIs and can discontinue their use. 

If expectations are communicated, partners are honest with one another, trust exists, and there is mutual  agreement/consent to discontinue condom use, it is still important that all people involved are aware of potential STBBI transmission risks and are considering harm reduction strategies, including regular STBBI testing and using PrEP as prescribed (if relevant). 

Gender norms, stereotypes, and sexual scripts about who should be responsible for acquiring condoms and what it
means to carry them can also make it challenging to negotiate their use (e.g., gender norms create different social meanings for cisgender boys/men carrying condoms and girls/women carrying condoms). Learning the communication skills to negotiate condoms and other safer sex practises is integral to comfort and pleasure.

Sex does not have a universal meaning even though many assume it only refers to intercourse with a penis and a vagina.
.People engage in a variety of sexual activities regardless of their gender identity and sexual orientation.

.It is everyone’s responsibility to practise safer sex and STBBI prevention.
.Sexual activity among young people is normal, expected, and healthy.
.There is no right age at which individuals should start having sex. It depends on their comfort level, circumstances, and emotional and social preparedness and circumstances. Some young people may be very interested in sexual activity and others’ may not be. Assertive communication and boundary-setting skills are developed with practice.

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